A Soulful Marriage, the four pillars of Responsibility, Growth, Priority and Purpose.
Here’s an excerpt from the Introduction to A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority and Purpose, which formed the basis of this interview with Margie Ellisor on Fox2am show.
We also had a 30 minute interview on the book which you find at the bottom of this post or on this youtube video.
Recently, one of my happy-to-be-divorced clients asked me, “How do I learnwhat healthy couples do in a successful relationship?”That’s exactly what this book is about. I do not promise or suggest that every relationship will be turned around or saved, or that each should be. I can say that the ideas in this book are top to bottom what I have come to know as the solution for building, and healing, your relationship into one that not only lasts but that grows in joy and love.
THE FOUR PILLARS After decades of counseling hundreds of couples, and experiencing tremendous transformation within my own marriage, I asked myself what are the core components of a relationship that is deeply fulfilling, and lasting—not trading one for the other. Even more, what does it take for the depth of love and bond to be ever growing. Everything I had learned and experienced personally kept bringing me back to four truths, which have proven unshakeable over time. Here are the four pillars that I will be guiding you through to heal and strengthen your relationship, one pillar at a time.
Pillar 1: Responsibility
We are each responsible for our own happiness and well-being.
Pillar 2: Growth
We use our friction to help us grow, individually and together.
Pillar 3: Priority
We make our mate the most important other person in our lives.
Pillar 4: Purpose
We make the world better through our bond.
I invite you into a beginner’s mindset, normalizing the idea that lasting love is a trainable skill, something you learn and mature into. Yes, bring what you know and have learned. However, let yourself be a student, to fall and get up, and fall again. I love this folk saying, “You never understand wisdom until you fail at it.”
