To build or destroy—this is the choice we have with our words every day, the watershed moments we face in those often undetectable pauses before we open our mouths (or keep them closed).

Many variables can cause strain between parents and their children, but the extent to which parennials are doing things differently has created quite a shake up in many American families. As one of my grandmother clients was recently informed, “It’s a new world, Mom.”

What are some tips for those involved in a family business, directly or indirectly? How can families maintain their family bond amidst the often tricky dynamics of running a business? How can family members best deal with emotions that can arise when members feel a threat to their power and place in the family, or their self esteem? Here are 4 proactive ideas to consider.