SELF COMPASSION: OVERCOMING THE NEVER GOOD ENOUGH SYNDROME
I can hardly think of anyone who walks through my private practice door, whether that be for relationship problems, anxiety, depression or any life challenge, who at the core, does not struggle in some way with low self esteem, self worth, self love. The never feeling good enough syndrome.
Gaining steam in the 60s, the self esteem movement has been driven by the premise that bolstering one’s self esteem leads to greater mental health, motivation and success. And in certain ways it does. But there's a limit to what high self-esteem can bring a person, because as we see with definitions of self esteem, they are based on one’s thoughts, perceptions, and emotions related to one’s performance and behavior. This standard means you would need to perform and behave at a perfectly awesome level all the time to feel good about yourself. Sounds like a set up for a false and fleeting sense of self worth waiting for a crash.
In contrast to self-esteem, self-compassion is not based on self-evaluations and is gaining momentum in the self improvement circuit. read more ...